Amy Winehouse left us with many extraordinary messages. One of those messages has come to light once again.

I am bringing this post back to reiterate an important point. I was reminded of the content of this post when I heard Kelsey Grammer speak of the dark character he plays in Boss. He understands the danger of becoming personally veiled with darkness and doubt as he merges with the character. Professor’s admonition to think more than twice about playing a role like this is front and center once again. I’m holding lots of light for Mr. Grammer as he takes the wonderful and insightful step of protecting his own light.

Watch this short video and the discussion with Oprah, then read on . . .

When we hear about famous people in trouble with drugs and alcohol, do we just assume that it’s part of a freewheeling lifestyle that gives one access to, and the money to pay for, the drug of choice?  I suggest that we take a deeper look so that we can better understand the phenomenon, for it might be happening in our own home—far from the glaring lights of our frenzied media.

Entertainers light us up with their charisma and magnetic imaginations.  We are touched by their playfulness, intimacy, and generosity of spirit. We are in awe of their ability to know, feel, and understand what others need and experience. However, this very capacity to easily jump into the skin of another and become that person, threatens the mooring of what the Chinese call a Fire personality.

The usual openness and sensitivity to others becomes overloaded with the thoughts and feelings of others. One becomes overexcited and overextended, unable to slow down or pull together. Speech and expression become exaggerated and loose meaning and relevance. How many times have we seen our favorite stars out of control, in trouble, and seeking treatment? We are watching Fire rage across the entertainment landscape – completely out of balance.

As the dissolution of the self continues, it becomes difficult to discriminate between self and other. The fire is out, the spirit is gone, and we have a lost Fire soul. The personality is veiled with darkness and doubt—very unlike the bright light of the previously optimistic, articulate, and affectionate person we knew. It becomes “natural” to look for a way out, and stimulants can be just what the doctor ordered – literally.

You can help.

If you encounter a lack of focus, nervousness, exaggerated speech, or an inability to rest and replenish, you need to show up with your Water characteristics. Bring your introspection, independence, the capacity to concentrate and conserve, the ability to withdraw, and a true sense of self. Think of Whoopi Goldberg and all that she embodies, and you will be well on your way to helping an anxious friend.

Also, suggest that the person in need breathe in the moonlight every evening to cool the raging fire.

If you encounter the darkness, dread, and doubt that appear as a result of merging to the point of losing oneself, you can help the lost Fire soul set strong and healthy boundaries—the perfect job for the Metal personality. Bring your discrimination, discernment, and a sense of surety and protection. Think of the person with whom you feel safe and confident. Bring that peacefulness of spirit, and you will help to restore a sense of security. Your exhausted friend will find a place to rejuvenate.

Also, suggest that the person in need breathe in the sunlight every morning to help restore a sensible amount of heat and brilliance. 

With so much Fire lighting up the entertainment scene, it’s no wonder that we continue to see the imbalance in daily headlines. Those who provide us with extraordinary talent and joy are inundated with our attention, expectations, and criticism. They are sensitive and open, and vulnerable to being consumed. Will we take note and learn from what is right before our eyes? Will we be kind, and choose to be helpful?

Pause a moment and take a look at your own Fire. Have you lost your ability to remain calm, clear, and connected? Genuinely intimate? Secure and tranquil? We can learn from the life and talent of Amy Winehouse. I am remembering Amy, Elvis, Marilyn, Heath and others.

With gratitude . . .