Lights, Camera, Action! UPDATE
Are we ready in an instant to face someone in need and know that the most precise and effective answer is at our fingertips?
One of our Storyboard Case Files presents real-life scenarios – some simple and some extreme – played by actors – but all a part of my consulting career. All have been a challenge and, now, offer us the opportunity to practice our craft.
Wandering Wife Scenario
This is a disaster! I just knew it! It has been happening for a long time, I knew it, I knew it! I finally got smart. I hired a detective and now I know for sure. She actually did it and I know everything. I’m ready to throw her out of the house! But, we have children. This will just kill them. How can I tell them their mother is cheating? How can I? It will break their hearts. They are just old enough to understand and I can’t imagine what to say or do. I’m so angry. And, at the same time, I’m numb. If I stop to think, the pain is impossible. So, I’m working non-stop. I can’t stand to be home. Now I’m the one who’s gone all the time.
We had problems, but we just couldn’t figure it out, and now there is someone else.
I’m sorry to bombard you with all this the minute you walk in the door and I’m not sure there is anything to do. But, I love my wife, I love my kids, and I want to work through this. Otherwise, it will destroy this family and that is not an option I think I can live with.
What will you do?
There is one clue you cannot miss. The gentleman clearly spoke the words that relate to a sudden chi imbalance that can derail any attempt to create a place to pause and reflect. It is your work to see the imbalance, to find your own balance, and to offer your expertise graced with wisdom and stability.
Let us know what you find. I will respond to all comments.
What else will you do?
Once you have worked with the chi imbalance and found some steady ground, you might address the design details that speak to relationship difficulties. Here are some you have to look for.
- Missing Partnership guas, even on the lot
- Back to the door – out of command at bed, desk, or stove (at home or at work)
- Knife-edges creating ever-increasing anxiety
- Split, especially at the front door
- Difficult path to the master bedroom – creating mood swings and feeling out-of-sorts
- A dark, small, or narrow foyer that can lead to the creation of relationship problems that are vague or abstract. You cannot put your finger on the problem.
Add life, such as additional light, fish, plants, etc.
- Master bedroom outside the line of the front door – allowing a partner to become distracted by things (or people) outside the house
- No bedroom door – allowing a partner to “escape”
- No door between the bedroom and master bath – losing a partner by some sort of disaster, including Plum Blossom Disaster
- If the branches of a Cherry, Peach or Apricot tree extend beyond the property line, one party in a marriage may break his or her vows.
I know you will continue to add to this list.